Divorced! Single! Bankrupt! Homeless in 3 days! Plus pneumonia!
Photo was taken earlier on the day of the Loma Prieta Earthquake: October 17, 1989. Additional damage occurred to the home.
The realtor who had sold my Monte Sereno home asked, “Where are you going to move in 3 days?
It was January 27, 1990 and I needed to be out of the house when it closed escrow on January 31.
I said, “I have no idea! I have 4 cats and so much furniture I need the largest United Van Lines moving truck!”
He said, “Well, I can rent you a 4 bedroom/2 bath house for $200/month if you’ll clean it up.”
Then he said,
“You need to know that the previous owner shot his wife in the house a year ago. He then shot himself, killing himself, in the house.”
I moved in on January 31, 1990.
I paid TOP DOLLAR for the home “AS IS!” This is the ceiling in the eating area of the house when I moved in.
On February 2 he asked me, “If you could purchase this home, would you?” I laughed and said – “Of course!”
Thinking he must be joking because I was flat broke, had gone through bankruptcy, was in the process of an ugly divorce with horrible credit, was on worker’s comp because I had developed pneumonia while working 3 part-time jobs and going to school full time.
There was NO WAY I could get a home loan – at least that is what I thought.
On February 14 he brought papers and said, “Sign here!”
I’d done enough purchasing of homes I knew what these papers were and what they said. I didn’t ask any questions.
On February 16, 1990 – exactly 32 years ago TODAY! – I became the owner of this home – BAD FENG SHUI and all, but…
It was exactly what I was supposed to do and where I was supposed to be.
Over the next few weeks I’ll be posting bits and pieces of this story and the journey to CLEAN IT UP!
THANK GOODNESS I KNEW FENG SHUI plus HOW TO CLEAR NEGATIVE ENERGIES from a really bad energy home!
In my next few blogs I’ll share more of the stories about this house.
LUCKY FOODS for the DAY
Usual ways of spending the first day in an Asian culture would be to visit family members and share in wonderful morsels of food. REMEMBER: DO NOT COOK! Food should be prepared the day before so all can enjoy spending time together and not have to cook.
Here are some typical foods and what they represent:
- Dumplings (usually eaten at midnight) = Ring out the old year & ring in the new
- Whole poultry = Unity and good marriage between families
- Fish = Prosperity, unity (whole fish), Leaving leftovers for the next day = overflow prosperity
- Mandarin oranges = Family unity, attract wealth and success
- Fruit = Auspicious, Lucky
- Spring roll = Gold bars, wealth
- Mustard green, chard = Long life, longevity
- Rice cakes = Increasing prosperity year after year, growth in career, income, health, or height
- Long noodles = Longevity
- Dumplings = Wealth (looks like Gold Ingots, a form of money used in imperial days)
Additional, yet not typical foods:
- Peking Duck = Fidelity
- Sweet and Sour Pork = Desire for lots of grandchildren
- Lettuce wraps = Rising fortune
- Lion’s Head (very large) Meatballs = Power and strength, family togetherness
Red Envelopes, Ingots, Firecrackers, & Peach Blossoms for Health, Wealth, Love, Joy, & Good Luck!
If you can, find some small Lucky Red Envelopes to give to family, friends and children to wish them a Happy New Year. You put money in them; then give them to these people as you wish them “Happy New Year!” They are to be put in your purse or wallet, kept there all year long and not spent. It is a money attracter to bring wealth and prosperity – Also, so you “will never be broke!”
ACTIVITIES for CHINESE NEW YEAR DAY
Think of all the things you’d like to do this coming year. Make a list. This is the time to set your intentions.
Some ideas might be: hike, go on a picnic, go sailing or boating, ride a bike, read a book, travel, visit the beach or mountains, enjoy a movie, spend time with your pets, plant a new tree or bulbs, give time to a charity, spend time with family or loved ones, discover a new wine or place to eat, etc. The list is endless!
I have some friends who decided they wanted more time in various natural settings. Hence, they drove to the mountains (Sierra Nevada Range) the day before. The next morning they walked a little in the foothills, jumped in the car, drove to the Sacramento Delta and kayaked. Then they drove to the Pacific Ocean to see marine life at a reserve, stopping along the way for some wine tasting and a walk through the vineyards. They finished the day watching the sunset at a luxury resort after a spa treatment and enjoying more wine, a gourmet dinner and exquisite dessert.
Happy Chinese New Year 2022, Year of the Water Tiger
I do a little of everything I can think about that I’d like in my life the upcoming year. This makes for a very full day – one filled with joy. Some of the things I do are: take a walk (and try to go someplace I haven’t been before), talk to family & friends, play in my yard, read, write, take photos, eat great tasting food, maybe go to a restaurant for something wonderful, plan a vacation or trip, dream of things I want to do, and do some journaling.
Share a few things you are doing for the Lunar or Chinese New Year! I’d LOVE to hear what they are and energetically support you with your dreams!
Gung Hay Fat Choy! Happy Chinese New Year!
Elegant Lunar New Year design with hanging lantern and sakura petals flying in the air. May you welcome happiness with the spring written in Chinese characters
The Chinese New Year is also known as the Spring Festival and Lunar New Year. It is a time to “Welcome” the New Year with smiles and celebrations in order to have Good Fortune, happiness, a good harvest and all the Blessings a person desires in their life. Here are some rules and restrictions that have been observed through the centuries.
TABOOS on NEW YEAR’S DAY
- Do not say negative words (death, sick, pain, poor, break, kill, ghost, empty) – you don’t want to jinx yourself or bring misfortunes to you or loved ones
- Do not break ceramics of glass – Breaking things breaks your connection to prosperity
- Do not sweep or clean – (mentioned above)
- Do not wash your hair – That is washing away your Good Luck
- Do not use sharp objects like scissors or knives – It will cut your stream of wealth and success
- Do not borrow money on this day – Do not ask for a debt to be repaid on this day
- No fighting or crying as adults – If a child cries, do not scold them
- Avoid medicines, doctor’s, shots or surgery unless it is a serious medical issue or emergency
- Do not wake up a person – Let them arise at their own pace/speed
Wear something new on February 1, 2022.
Colorful Chinese cheongsam hanging for sale during Chinese New Year.
WEAR A NEW OUTFIT – or at least one new item of clothing
Greet the New Year with a new outfit for a new, fresh outlook on life! In China it would be a traditional Asian-styled dress for women. These days it can be a new shirt or blouse, pants, shoes or even just some new socks. Bright, glittery, sparkling jewelry or ornamental hair-ware are also some of the possibilities.
ACTIVITIES for CHINESE NEW YEAR DAY
As I mentioned before, it is said that whatever you do on the first day of the Chinese New Year is what you will be doing ALL YEAR LONG! So what do you want to do, or NOT do? Do you want to be driving in Rush Hour traffic and spending 14-16 hours at work all year long? Probably not!
Think of all the things you’d like to do this coming year. Make a list. This is the time to set your intentions.
I’m always telling you to get rid of things in preparation for A NEW START. This year it is imperative to release as much OLD as possible.
We are leaving the Year of the Ox. We have been carrying the heavy burden of fear, unknown, and unwanted thoughts imposed by others. We are entering the Year of the Water Tiger – a year where we need to be agile and quick!
A few things to RELEASE:Things you don’t use, things you don’t need, thoughts that don’t serve you, and people who don’t support you. That is why I’m spending more time to explain each step PLUS giving you more time in which to accomplish the tasks at hand. I know I need the extra notice; maybe you’ll appreciate it also.
You’ve got ONE WEEK to accomplish as much as you can from this list for the Freshest Start in this powerful and purrr-fect year! Yes, it can be like the BIG CAT it is and purr with a harmony of hope with the right focus at hand. So…
HAVE FUN WITH THIS!
Your “TO DO” List
- Clean your home thoroughly – Start at the front door and go through your home cleaning each room and surface. Ideally I’d like you to go through each drawer, closet, cabinet, etc. If you don’t have the time or energy to do all of them, here is a priority list: Bedroom (where you sleep), bathroom (where you take care of your personal self), kitchen (where you nourish yourself), children’s bedrooms (self-care first, then help others), and then common areas (living room, dining room, playroom, hobby room, etc.)
Clean Your Refrigerator
- Clean your refrigerator – Don’t stop at the exterior part of the kitchen like the counter. Go deeper. That refrigerator holds a number of items you no longer want to take with you into the New Year. If you just bought a pound of butter and some eggs, that’s okay to keep; but if you have leftover pizza from 2 weeks ago, out it goes! Wash down the inside. Place some baking soda in it to freshen the smell. Buy some fresh produce, deli items, dairy (if you eat it), meats and seafoods that you are going to prepare for your New Year’s Day Feast (See #9 below).
- Pay off your debts (or at least pay off a credit card or two if you can) – The Asian culture states you don’t want to start a New Year encumbered with last year’s debts or energy. In modern times in the US it seems natural to have credit card debts, especially after all the holiday gift-giving and entertainment expenses. It makes it very difficult to attempt this particular “prep” in time for the Western New Year on January 1, so I appreciate buying time until the Chinese New Year. Having mortgages and vehicle payments including the taxes and insurance on these is possibly the only exceptions. Otherwise, attempt to pay off all debts. It took me a number of years to be able to accomplish this. It probably was the biggest “game-changer” to my mindset in life! Can’t pay them off? That’s okay. Start with your smallest debt and pay it off (unless there is one that just feels especially toxic you want to remove from your life sooner!)
- Get rid of old emails, catalogs, magazines and newspapers –
Sort through, get rid of, and organize all mail
To start the New Year you want as little of the old energy from previous years as possible. There needs to be a major shift away from the consciousness of last year. Even though you may not be thinking about what is in that magazine or catalog, it’s affecting your energy. Every time you walk by it or sit looking at your email list (even if you aren’t looking directly at the old email), the object or email is giving off old energy from the past. We want to free ourselves from that stagnant energy!
- Go through mail, getting rid of all junk mail, “special” offers, etc. – Some people only go through their mail once or twice a month. If that’s you, change it up this once. Go through everything getting rid of all junk mail, advertisements, or special offers. Again, this is last year’s energy. Pay the bills. Organize your desk and file important documents where they need to be placed. Unless you actually are going to take advantage of a special offer, toss the ad! If you’re going to use the offer, do so before the Chinese New Year!
- Plan to have fresh linens to put on your bed on January 31
Make your bed with fresh linens
– When you go to bed on the eve of the Chinese New Year you’ll want to have your bed freshly made with either new linens or freshly washed bedding. You don’t want to bring the energy of last year into your bedroom or dreams for the future. In this way you will wake up in a clean, fresh smelling bed filled with the energy of a New Year and New Decade. I like to add lavender essential oils to my wash for the calming sweet smell it provides.
- Get rid of leftovers – Plan your meals the last week before the Chinese New Year so you aren’t wasting food, yet able to finish it up. Food from “last year” has LAST YEAR’S energy. We don’t want to ingest it once the New Year has started. (In addition, go through your spices and other items to check the expiration date. Only keep that which is fresh.)
- Plan not to work on February 1. That means no cooking, housework, going into your workplace, etc. – The reason I’m giving you a heads up on all these tasks is to help you start the New Year with GREAT energy. You don’t want to be working all year long. You don’t want to be cooking all year long. Do all the work before the Chinese New Year. Do your cooking ahead and have it in the refrigerator in order to have a feast on New Year’s Day. Just pull things out of the fridge and put them on a table to enjoy. Remember – NO LEFTOVERS! This needs to be freshly prepared items – made the day before – that are not leftovers from previous meals!
- Only do on February 1 things you want to do for the next year– The Chinese New Year is a New Beginning, the start of all the things you want in your life! What is it you want in your life?
Today is the day to start doing it. It’s said that whatever you do on Chinese New Year you will do more of it during the coming year. (That’s why #8 above says DO NOT work, etc. unless that is what you want to be doing all year long). Want to walk or hike? Do some photography or journaling? Start a podcast? Read more? Have fun, play, or travel? Spend more time with family/friends? Be inspired or explore spirituality?
I try to do a little of everything I want in life all packed into this one day. It’s one of the most fun days of the year for me filled with the promise of all the things I enjoy: the promise of Good things to come!
Gung Hay Fat Choy! Happy Chinese New Year!
Here it comes! The Chinese or Lunar New Year starts on February 1, 2022
Year of the Water Tiger 2022!
There are a number of things you can do to prepare your home and life for the Chinese New Year in order to have the best energy before it starts on February 1, 2022. Some are Feng Shui principles, while others are from a variety of traditions. I’ve incorporated these myself for 22+ years with amazing results.
Clean Your Home Completely Before the Chinese or Lunar New Year on February 1, 2022
- Clean your home thoroughly
- Pay off your debts (or at least pay off a credit card or two if you can)
- Get rid of emails, catalogs, magazines and newspapers from last year
- Go through mail, getting rid of all junk mail, “special” offers, etc.
- Plan to have fresh linens to put on your bed on January 31st
- Don’t plan to do any work on February 1st – that means no cooking, housework, going into your workplace, etc.
- Only do on February 1st things you want to do for the next year (hiking, photography, journal, do a podcast, read a book, play, travel, time with family/friends, have fun, be inspired)
- Get rid of leftovers
- Clean your refrigerator
Some of these are self-explanatory, yet I like to give you insights to help you get a better grasp on energy and how it works. The my next blog I will have some interesting stories to help you visualize these.
Gung Hay Fat Choy!
Happy Chinese New Year!
“GAME-CHANGING EVENT! PREPARE FOR CHOICES & DECISIONS” – Part 1
Rat Year 2020 Newsletter Image
This (above and below) is part of what I wrote in my newsletters in early January 2020 before I had heard about COVID – and before we started to experience what COVID would do in, and to, our lives! These thoughts were based on how the “animals” in the Chinese Zodiac affect the energy of the upcoming year, and thus our lives. In hindsight, we can see how these energies played out during the Year of the Metal Rat 2020.
BUT… the prep work is the same for EVERY YEAR. Consider including these tips into your activities and life between now and February 1, 2022 when the Year of the Water Tiger starts!
Transform your life, and the world, by preparing for the Chinese New Year on January 25, 2020. This Chinese New Year is unlike any most people have experienced, unless you are 60+ years old and were old enough to remember, plus aware enough to understand its implications.
The next 10 days as we approach the Year of the Metal Rat I’ll share powerful, and potentially life changing, information in a few newsletters. I hope you will take these gems, internalize them, and integrate them into your life. As the world becomes more interconnected through Internet energy, it’s imperative for us to become more connected to ALL the energies around us, especially our INNERnet – our inner energies, especially our intuition.
First, why “once in 60 years” you might be asking?
There are 12 animals in the lineup for the Chinese New Year and 5 elements, which equates to this formula of 12 x 5 = 60. The “Rat” is the FIRST of the animals, so it is considered to be a VERY AUSPICIOUS BEGINNING for the next 12 years. In addition, it’s not just a new year, it’s a NEW DECADE!
This is a rare game changer! It’s an EXTREMELY POWERFUL time in our lives. Let’s take full advantage of it!
YOUR INNER WORK
Unlock and change the pathways in your brain to remove limiting beliefs that are holding you back from your full potential.
1) Out with the Old – that means everything old!
Yes, let go of old items that no longer serve you (more later on this). More important, get rid of old BELIEFS. You want to “leave behind” as much “baggage” from the last decade and 60-year cycle as you can.
(It is even more important to “leave behind” the “baggage” from the last 2 years! The baggage could be FEAR, ANGER, HURT, GRIEF, and so much more!)
2) Focus only on positive, life-enhancing energy!
Instead of a focus on unjust things in our world or negative, judgmental issues, turn your thoughts and words into positive alignment. Rather than getting upset with a political view or action and jumping on the hysterical bandwagon as other people do, find a cause or action you can support – one filled with positive energy where you are helping people.
Negative words and energy block the flow of energy, causing illnesses. Positive energy fills you body with vitality giving you MORE energy.
3) There are incredible opportunities ahead this year, and you’ll need to make quick, informed choices. Don’t let these choices be based on “other people’s thoughts and perspectives.” They need to be YOUR decisions based on information you glean from reliable sources and your intuition. Steer clear of mass consciousness spread by the media. You’re only “feeding the dragon” of FEAR, actually contributing to more of that energy.
Conclusion – Think back to January 2020. Would these tips have helped you navigate what was ahead?
I’ve heard it said that: “Out of chaos order is created.” Is it possible the chaos we have been experiencing since 2020 is trying to create a more balanced order in our world?
I’ll be sharing more from my 2020 newsletters to help you prepare for the New Year. No matter what New Year it is – whether it’s a Western, Chinese, or Lunar New Year – simple preparation steps can help you create better energy for the upcoming year.